congratulate me! i’m writing this before amelia has hit five and a half months! exciting things. good things. forward progress. (except minus two points because i forgot to use the five month sticker…good thing my darling friend megan made us these cute month by month onesies!)
sometimes i wonder how it’s possible for me to love a living thing more and more as time goes on. every week and month that goes by, the more fun i have with my daughter. her personality continues to grow and shine through her with each day that passes, and based on what i can see so far, her and i are going to get along just fine than you very much!
she really seems to like me lately. when i get home from work and say hi, i get immediate hysterical laughter. she doesn’t really do that for anyone else, and so i’m choosing to believe that this means she thinks i’m hilarious, not that my face makes her laugh. i live for those giggles at the end of a long work day. and to know that my little love is starting to like me for more than just the fact that i’m her milk machine…well that’s something that will never get old!
she still doesn’t have any teeth, so we are still fighting that beast called bedtime…but who can fall asleep with a sore mouth?? i just feel bad for the girl! she’s sitting up all the time now, although still refuses to roll. Mister Man and i are just waiting for the day she pulls herself on something and our lives as we know it end. and don’t get me started on how excited we are to start her on solids soon…she’s going to love it.
dearest missy moo, every day with you is an adventure, and your dad and i couldn’t be happier or more proud to be your parents. we can’t wait to keep having dance parties with you, and love you forever!
sometimes when i don’t have a lot to say about life, either because we’re being oh so routine or because it’s moving so quickly and happily along, i like to write these types of posts. they’re a fun little way for me to share more of the random parts about myself. my last one revealed the insane way i eat my skittles….so you know, pretty hard-hitting stuff!
hope you enjoy. happy friday and all that!
1) i’m super into midi-rings right now. i’m about a million years late to the party, just like i am with everything. but there is just something so subtle and awesome about them, i don’t know i just LOVE THEM. the ones i have are tiny little rose gold ones from this etsy shop, and i wear them every day.
2) do you guys remember raffi? i didn’t until my mother-in-law told me she had been playing him for amelia and then WHAM hello flashbacks. i mean how could i forget classics like “baby beluga”, “apples and bananas”, and “octupus’s garden”!? be careful though…all his songs are serious earworms and you’ll be humming them all weekend.
3) i recently changed jobs at work, and subsequently moved desks. my new desk is by a window (awesome) in an office with no microwave or coffeemaker (terrible). this leaves me without hot water, and i drink quite a lot of mother’s milk tea during the day, too much to be running into the main building to use a microwave. so i bought an electric kettle and snuck it into my cube. electric kettles and the like are considered contraband you see. apparently hot water is all it takes to make me into a rebel without a cause.
4) if i never had to go clothes shopping in an actual store, i wouldn’t. it just feels like such an ordeal to get dressed and ready just to go get undressed to try on other clothes. am i the only girl alive who feels that way? i’m going to try to see how long i can shop for amelia exclusively online before she demands i take her to a real mall. maybe by that time malls won’t exist anymore?
5) if you’ve been around for a while, you might remember my obsession with this candle? well did you know they stopped making that scent this year? (if any of you knew this ahead of time and didn’t warn me…) i was very sad for a while, until i found a scent that is EXACTLY like it, called warm caramel cider. i may have definitely bought too many of them this fall and now have nowhere to store them.
the most common responses i get when i tell people we are cloth diapering are:
1) oh wow, you’re really brave!
2) oh. nice. *grossedoutgrimace*
which, both of those are actually fair. the thought of “extra” work when it comes to the dirty job of diapering a baby is hardly something that makes people excited. but the amount of work it adds to your day is in reality so minimal that it’s hardly noticeable. and the benefits of cloth diapering (for us at least) are so worth it.
we decided to go with cloth diapers for a few reasons. not all these reasons mean the same thing to every one, or even are the least bit important to anyone. but for those mamas that are thinking about maybe, possibly doing cloth diapers, maybe some of our thought process will help you make a decision one way or another. the first part of my cloth diaper posts is going to go over some of the decision points you want to consider when making the decision of cloth diapers or disposables.
BENEFITS OF CLOTH DIAPERING
cost savings: the biggest reason for using cloth diapers is that i am incredibly cheap. when we were planning, the idea of spending thousands of dollars on something that my baby would literally be crapping into was just too much for me. we registered for and were gifted all of our diapers and covers up through her first year (we may have to buy some bigger size diapers in a few months, but that is a minimal cost). so our upfront costs were negligible. upfront investment can be more depending what type of diaper you choose; we chose the most classic and least expensive cloth diapering method (which i’ll talk about more in part two). however, had we had to purchase all the supplies ourselves, they would have run us about $350, including the diaper pail. if we had gone with disposable, we would have easily already spent around $450 on just diapers (assuming $0.33/diaper x 10 diapers/day x 140 days of amelia’s life), and our cloth diapers will last us through multiple children.
good for baby: babies feel wetter faster in cloth diapers, which means they let you know they need to be changed sooner, which means less time sitting in their own refuse. their sensitive skin is also wrapped in soft cotton instead of synthetic material all day. both of these things are good for minimizing or avoiding diaper rash. in amelia’s five months, she has only had very mild diaper rash, usually related to teething, and never lasting more than a day. bonus perk: cloth-diapered babies tend to potty train earlier, due to that wet feeling mentioned above, and i can definitely get behind less diapering in my life.
green living: this is really up for debate, because i’ve read studies that say that cloth diapering and disposable diapers are equally as bad for the environment; cloth diapers use hot water to wash them, disposables end up in landfills. so basically it’s a pick your poison kind of deal. for us, minimizing the physical trash we would have with a baby was important to us. now that i know how much laundry the cloth diapers create, it’s definitely not as much as i expected, so i’m happy with the direction we went. but this is definitely more of a side benefit that you can take or leave when making your decision.
teeny, tiny, wiggly baby amelia.
DRAWBACKS OF CLOTH DIAPERING
laundry: there is no denying that there is more laundry with cloth diapers. and there are some weeks (especially in the beginning) where you feel like you are washing diapers every.single.day. because you are. and it’s a bit rough. but as baby gets older, diaper laundry stretches a little longer, and you get so good at it that it doesn’t even feel like extra work anymore. we wash diapers every two days now, and it’s second nature to both of us.
learning curve: there is an art and a science to putting on the type of cloth diapers we use, and when you start out, it feels slow. it feels so much easier to just throw on a disposable. but let me tell you, you will change so many diapers in your first weeks as parents, that you will get really good really fast. Mister Man had never changed a diaper before having amelia, and he was a pro by week three.
portability: cloth diapers are bulkier then disposables, and also you can’t, you know, throw them away, so leaving the house with cloth diapers takes a little more thought. you need a wet bag to put the dirty diapers into so you can bring them home. you need an extra cover in the event of a blowout. full disclosure: we usually take disposable diapers with us in the diaper bag because it’s just easier to throw a bunch in there and not take up too much room. my goal for this year is to leave the house with just cloth as much as i can though.
obviously there is a lot to consider when making this decision. and for a lot of people, the ease of disposables outweighs the cost savings of cloth and that’s definitely okay. we used disposables on amelia the first week of her life because we were just trying to keep everyone alive. we compromise and use disposables most of the time when we’re out, and even at night when amelia is having a fit and it’s worth it to save the 5 extra seconds on the diaper change. we’re definitely not perfect!
if you do end up making the decision to use cloth diapers, the next step is choosing what kind of diaper to use, and developing a system for storing and washing the diapers. i wish that i had been able to find a practical example of how to wash cloth diapers before we had amelia, so my next post will include my step by step process for how we store and wash our cloth diapers.
for now, i’m off to feed and change that baby of mine!